Be serious! Be alert! Your adversary the Devil is prowling around like a roaring lion, looking for anyone he can devour. ~ 1 Peter 5:8
Although most brides are NOT “bridezillas,” stress is a wedding aspect that every girl must deal with. A bride is coordinating several huge events (rehearsal, ceremony, reception), organizing a myriad of people (parents, siblings, grandparents, other extended family), and everyone has their own idea of how a wedding “should” be.
Growing up, I was convinced that my character was too weak to combat bridezilla tendencies. I have an anxious disposition already, and I felt adding the stress of a wedding would only do me in. I have always dreaded my own wedding process, and now that it’s here I’ve had to deal with a great deal of stress. Some is external, but lately much of it is internal pressure I put on myself (Will timings go off smoothly? Will my guests have fun? Will the dress fit? Will people complain about my decisions?).
The truth is, no matter how hard you try to fight it, every bride will struggle with the stress-monster. Why is this? Why are weddings bone-drainingly stressful? Why are they so tiresomely hard?
Why, to distract us from our rightful joy in Christ and to pull us apart, of course.
The True Monster
The institution of marriage infuriates Satan. It goes against everything he stands for. Marriage is togetherness and oneness, an allegory of our unfailing relationship with God. Marriage is meant to create families – families who spread the gospel. Satan wants us to be alone and isolated, and under no circumstances does he want us to be reminded of how much God loves us, let alone spread the gospel.
But if he can’t stop a marriage, he’ll try to steal the joy from it. Satan loves stress. He loves the divisiveness that can occur because of it. He wants the focus to be on all the things that are going wrong, rather than the love God created between two people.
I cannot tell you how angry this makes me. It should make you angry, too.
Defeating the Stress-Monster
More than that, it makes me want to stop Satan in his tracks. Peter was not talking about weddings when he wrote his words, but they certainly apply. If you are planning a wedding, be serious and alert. The devil is prowling around your wedding planning process, looking to devour your joy. He might succeed from time-to-time; but you can always get back up, repent, and move forward with your eyes open, watching for his next move.
You may not be planning a wedding, but the same is true for you: be serious and alert; the devil is looking to devour you with stress. Whether it’s stress at work or at home, he is there, waiting. Don’t let him devour your joy, beloved.
So, have I had my “bridezilla” moments? Maybe. I suppose it depends on who you ask. I have certainly had sinful reactions to things. I have tried to always recognize those times and ask for forgiveness from those I sinned against. Lately, though, I’ve been losing the stress battle. I’m so overwhelmed with all that is left to do, and I simply have no motivation to do it. I was letting the devil devour my joy – but no longer. Now, I am alert and determined to reclaim my rightful joy.
See that you do the same, beloved.